Renowned media scholar Sherry Turkle investigates how a flight from conversation undermines our relationships, creativity, and productivity-and why reclaiming face-to-face conversation can help us regain lost ground. We live in a technological universe in which we are always communicating. And yet we have sacrificed conversation for mere connection. a Preeminent author and researcher Sherry Turkle has been studying digital culture for over thirty years. Long an enthusiast for its possibilities, here she investigates a ...
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Renowned media scholar Sherry Turkle investigates how a flight from conversation undermines our relationships, creativity, and productivity-and why reclaiming face-to-face conversation can help us regain lost ground. We live in a technological universe in which we are always communicating. And yet we have sacrificed conversation for mere connection. a Preeminent author and researcher Sherry Turkle has been studying digital culture for over thirty years. Long an enthusiast for its possibilities, here she investigates a troubling consequence- at work, at home, in politics, and in love, we find ways around conversation, tempted by the possibilities of a text or an email in which we don't have to look, listen, or reveal ourselves. a We develop a taste for what mere connection offers. The dinner table falls silent as children compete with phones for their parents' attention. Friends learn strategies to keep conversations going when only a few people are looking up from their phones. At work, we retreat to our screens although it is conversation at the water cooler that increases not only productivity but commitment to work. Online, we only want to share opinions that our followers will agree with - a politics that shies away from the real conflicts and solutions of the public square. a The case for conversation begins with the necessary conversations of solitude and self-reflection. They are endangered- these days, always connected, we see loneliness as a problem that technology should solve. Afraid of being alone, we rely on other people to give us a sense of ourselves, and our capacity for empathy and relationship suffers. We see the costs of the flight from conversation everywhere- conversation is the cornerstone for democracy and in business it is good for the bottom line. In the private sphere, it builds empathy, friendship, love, learning, and productivity. a But there is good news- we are resilient. Conversation cures. a Based on five years of research and interviews in homes, schools, and the workplace, Turkle argues that we have come to a better understanding of where our technology can and cannot take us and that the time is right to reclaim conversation. The most human-and humanizing-thing that we do. a The virtues of person-to-person conversation are timeless, and our most basic technology, talk, responds to our modern challenges. We have everything we need to start, we have each other.a
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This is a terrifying book; it cautions us about what we are becoming and the consequences of our actions. Sherry Turkle zeroes in on digital media and how it is affecting adults and children. The picture is very ugly.
Early in the book, teachers solicit the author's expertise because they see that their middle-aged students lack empathy towards each other. They want to interact with their digital gizmos rather than talk with each other.
Then the author discusses the the concerns of a growing number of academic professors; with digital devices in the classroom, inattention is rampant. When college students get together, they always have their cellphones. No matter what they are doing, they check their phones almost constantly. When the author asks why they check constantly, they say that they might have an email. Thus, they have their phones within easy grasp 'just in case someone wants to communicate.' The phones are on the dining table, interrupting family or friend communication.
CEO's are already complaining that their new hires have to be coddled and given warm fuzzies throughout a project. These new-hires have grown up on Facebook and need constant positive regard and encouragement. Facebook encourages positive postings; the members have become addicted to getting positive reinforcement from others.
The new horror in our culture is 'being bored.' So our digital devices give us an out - so we have no quiet time or boring minutes. Huh? Thinking and creativity requires one to quietly think. Creative solutions come from realizing that we need to do (think, say) something differently.
As I was reading this book, I looked out over the restaurant where I was having lunch. Parents were ignoring their children while they checked their phones, called or texted. Teens were partially-listening to their companions while they constantly interacted with their phones. Please note: This wasn't at a table or two; it was throughout the building. I've learned three major things from this book and my observations:
1) Thank goodness I'm retired and am not in this rat-race of constant communication.
2) It is a shame that I've retired because a good many of these people (the smart ones) are going to wind up in therapy for phone addiction. (I was a therapist.)
3) Bizarre behaviors and serial killings will only increase; children are routinely ignored because their parents are interacting with their phones and not their children. Granted, most children will just emulate their parents and become part-time friends/members in a relationship/parents to a new crop of ignored children. (Remember Harry Chapin's song 'Cats-in-the-Cradle?'*) But there are enough fragile personalities who will rebel against such inattention and do the unthinkable.
Relationships are going to become more fragmented. Teens and college students already talk about not being interested in communication without their devices. They break up by texting because they don't want to get into messy emotions. What a scary world.
I downgraded the book because the author was so wishy-washy about solutions. What about cellphone-free meals? What about device-free classrooms? The problem is that the adults are unable to control themselves and they are afraid to be the ogre-in-the-room limiting phone usage in their children. No one wants to be the 'mean parent in the neighborhood.' When did parenting become a popularity contest? I shudder for the next generation.
* "Cat's In The Cradle"
My child arrived just the other day
He came to the world in the usual way
But there were planes to catch and bills to pay
He learned to walk while I was away
And he was talkin' 'fore I knew it, and as he grew
He'd say "I'm gonna be like you, Dad
You know I'm gonna be like you"
And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin' home, Dad
I don't know when, but we'll get together then
You know we'll have a good time then
My son turned ten just the other day
He said, "Thanks for the ball, Dad, come on let's play
Can you teach me to throw", I said "Not today
I got a lot to do", he said, "That's ok"
And he walked away but his smile never dimmed
And said, "I'm gonna be like him, yeah
You know I'm gonna be like him"
And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin' home, Dad
I don't know when, but we'll get together then
You know we'll have a good time then
Well, he came from college just the other day
So much like a man I just had to say
"Son, I'm proud of you, can you sit for a while"
He shook his head and said with a smile
"What I'd really like, Dad, is to borrow the car keys
See you later, can I have them please"
And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin' home son
I don't know when, but we'll get together then, Dad
You know we'll have a good time then
I've long since retired, my son's moved away
I called him up just the other day
I said, "I'd like to see you if you don't mind"
He said, "I'd love to, Dad, if I can find the time
You see my new job's a hassle and the kids have the flu
But it's sure nice talking to you, Dad
It's been sure nice talking to you"
And as I hung up the phone it occurred to me
He'd grown up just like me
My boy was just like me
And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man in the moon
When you comin' home son
I don't know when, but we'll get together then, Dad
We're gonna have a good time then
